The most powerful stories can be double-edged
Try an experiment. Buy yourself a hand puppet. The puppet says the first thing, no filter, that jumps into your mind. Practice having the puppet introduce you. It will say some wonderful things and some awful things. Do it in private at first. If you get confident you may allow your unfiltered inner child loose more often.
I completely get the tendency to self-deprecate; I'm guilty of it all the time myself. Fortunately for you, Ilana, so many of us recognize your talents and the beautiful stories you craft.
The original versions of Cinderella, the prince only notices her when she's decked out in Fairy Godmother's finest creations. It implies men -- and most women -- see first, reason later.
When even her step sisters don't recognize her, it reinforces the value of surface glitter.
The many 20th and 21st century versions, the prince first meets her in rags, and notices something is special about her, but doesn't act on it until the ball, or acts only timidly, trying to figure out why this common peasant seems so refined. Most modern versions, the stepsisters either recognize her at the ball, or sense there is something familiar about her.
It's the modern corruption that has misled so many many of us.
I feel much the same way...I am not at all wired for self-promotion, and I'd much rather people notice my absence than point out my presence, if that makes sense.